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But unfortunately, it is too often the case that the “neurotypical” (i.e., non-Asperger’s) wife/partner views these traits as “defects that could be corrected if the man would just try harder,” resulting in the wife/partner feeling depreciated, unloved and resentful (which is truly the downside of AS for men). As a woman with AS who has been happily married for almost 30 years to a man with AS, the mother of a daughter and four sons who are all on the spectrum, the grandmother of little Spectrumites and as a fully human being with a complete range of emotions I would like to say that it is the mis-match between different neurologies that causes most of the problems.
Oh, and I'm the daughter and grand-daughter of Spectrumites too.
Hearing may also be affected, and he may dislike loud noises and certain music.
Also, crowds may be overwhelming, and he may avoid them all together. Sexual issues may arise if the AS male has not received an appropriate sex education earlier in life.
A special interest (e.g., coin collecting) is common in males with AS, and this may be something they have pursued for years.
They will be passionate about it and often have an extensive collection of related items as well as incredible knowledge on the subject. Although AS males are often highly intelligent, they may have held down a menial job or drifted from job to job for years.
This stems from their problems with social skills and communication. An AS man may have a pet (often a dog) that he becomes quite attached to.
Notice I said “traits” – not “character flaws.” We’re talking about symptoms that come with having the disorder.
And the affected person often has little - or no - control over most of these symptoms.